Post #7: I Want to Hear From You!

Hey there trollmates!

It’s been a while since I’ve updated simply because I was waiting to hear from someone abut wanting to win the giveaway.

Apparently no one has entered yet, so I’m going to extended the giveaway to February first! So go comment!

In other news, I’m wondering what you guys want to hear! I haven’t gotten a ton of feedback on this blog, but I would really love to know what you all are thinking! Do you wish I would just shut up and stop asking you what you think write more Lowdowns? Do you want to hear more about my personal relationship experiences? I’m actually studying couples and sex therapy, so do you guys want advice?

Anyway, I’m literally open to anything! Ask anything you want to know, including but not limited to:

What games you should buy your boyfriend?
What is my favorite fruit?
How can you communicate better with your gamer?
What games/sites/pieces of culture should you avoid?
Why do I like Slenderman?
Do I have a Tumbr?
Why did I start this site in the first place?
What is my boyfriend like?
What games do I like/hate/loathe entirely?
What is the meaning of life?

I will answer all of these questions and more if you ask them!

There’s more to come, my lovelies! Stay tuned!

~ ❤ ~

Taylor

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Happy New Year!

Hey there trollmates!

I hope you’re all having a fantastic 2013 so far! I wish you all the best 🙂

Now, I haven’t been getting a lot of response lately, even though I’m getting a lot of views. I’m sure this is simply because all the views are bots you guys just don’t feel I’ll honor your input! So I want to see what you guys want to see on this site!

So, if you have a suggestion for an article, let me know! Leave a comment in the comments section, or email me at domesticmajestic@gmail.com. I will seriously consider any suggestions you all have!

Have a great weekend everybody 🙂

Post #5: Top Questions to Ask (and NOT to ask) Your Gamer Guy

Hey ladies! Sorry it’s taken so long for me to update, but we all know how crazy things can be over Thanksgiving! A day filled with my family yelling at each other about who spilt the gravy love and giving thanks for all we have!

As promised, this post is going to cover questions you can ask your gamer about his gaming and/or nerd culture in general to spark some great conversations. These have worked wonders for me in the past, so I’m sure they’ll work for you too! 🙂 I’m also going to include a few don’ts of conversation starters, because there are a few that will just piss your gamer off. Make sure to avoid those.

This simple guide to questions is sure to help you spark up some interesting conversations with your man, plus asking these questions will let him know that you care. 🙂

Happy reading, and stay tuned for an awesome Christmas themed post!

1. Do ask: “So what is this game about?”

This one is a classic. My boyfriend LOVES when I ask him this question because it makes him feel like a video game god when he can explain a game in detail. Ladies, games no longer consist of simply “you shoot the spaceships”; gamer guys love feeling like they know stuff, so chances are when you ask him this question he’ll be inclined to tell you the background of that game, it’s sequel, and how it’s played. This will be useful later (if you listen to his answer) because you can ask him to clarify on things he says here, which can lead to an even better discussion.

2. Don’t ask: “Are you winning?”

Ladies, this question makes you sound just plain ditsy. This isn’t Mario Cart, trollmates; there’s no first place. Video games now are WAY more complicated than that, and asking him if he’s winning is sure to piss him off. If you’re looking to annoy him, ask this question. If not, just don’t.

3. Do ask: “What are your five favorite video games?”

This question is totally effective. Ladies, if you want your man to talk to you about games for an extended period time, this is the question to ask. Not only will appreciate your curiosity, but he will also greatly enjoy talking enumerating these games. It shows him that you’re interested and again, if you listen, you’ll gain some valuable information that can be helpful later in coming up with more questions.

4. Don’t ask: “What’s so great about this anyway?”

Ladies, this question is wrong on SO many levels! Not only does it imply that your guy shouldn’t be playing video games at all (which is enough to make him roll his eyes), it also sounds like you don’t plan on listening to his answer! The number one thing you must do in order to maintain any relationship is LISTEN! Whether you’re dating a gamer, an Internet junkie, a nerd, a jock, a punk, an emo, or even just a human person, communication is the KEY to a successful relationship! How can you expect him to listen to stories about your day if you don’t take any interest in what he has to say?

5. Do ask: “What do you like about this particular game?”

This question is always a good one. It’s sweet, simple, and to the point, but it’s bound to get a great response. By asking this question, trollmates, you show your gamer that you’re interested in what he has to say, and that you know that there’s more than one type of game out there, and different reasons for liking them. That’s really important, because it lets him know that you care. Plus, it’s never a bad thing when your man looks forward to explaining something to you.

So there you have it, my lovely ladies! You are now officially trained in the art of asking your gamer questions!

Remember, these can always be applied to different things, like a certain website or piece of Internet culture. If your man is in into Naruto or some other “nerd thing” that’s not a game, you can simply apply the questions to that. All trollmates can use this kind of advice and I’m so happy to supply it!

Happy holidays, and stay tuned for a Gamer Guy Gift Guide!

~ ❤ ~

Taylor

P.S. IF YOU BOUGHT ANYTHING COOL AT BLACK FRIDAY, comment below! I wanna hear your CRAZY Black Friday shopping stories!

Post #4: Trollmates for Real

Hey there, Trollmates! 🙂

Sorry I haven’t updated this week! I have been so very busy this week eating pizza rolls  coming up with ideas for articles and even writing some guests posts, which will bring even more trollmates to our community!

Today though, I’m dedicating this post to my amazing boyfriend!

“But Taylor!” You might be wondering, “Why the hell should we care about your life?”

Well, ladies (and gents), you should care because I am living proof that a non-gamer to gamer relationship can work and be strong, so long as you work at it! Even more than that, it’s to share with you my story so that you know I’m not some random foreveralone person who knows nothing about relationships. I have one, a great one. And that’s why I made this blog.

So, today is my two year anniversary with my boyfriend! He and I, as the title suggests, are trollmates for real, and two years is a big deal for us! So to celebrate, I want to share some things with you that I’ve found extremely helpful in making our relationship last.

That brings us to the topic of today’s post:

  • Rule Number Two: Ask Questions

Last summer, my boyfriend and I went through a really rough patch that called our whole relationship into question. Sometimes we felt like we simply had nothing to talk about, that we had settled into a routine and couldn’t get out of it.

That’s when we learned to ask questions. I don’t mean, “Why didn’t you call me?!” type questions. I mean questions about each other, and about the things we love. This is especially true for a gamer to non-gamer relationship; Gamers LOVE to talk about their games! But more importantly, they love that you care enough to want to learn. Which means you need to also follow this:

  • Rule Number Three: Listen to the Answers

Ladies, asking questions isn’t going to help your relationship if you aren’t interested in hearing the answer! If you really want to make it work with someone, you have to be interested in the things that they care about! Now, that doesn’t mean you have to sit and play Guild Wars 2 for a few hours and become a fan of it; it just means that you like/love/care about the other person enough to hear what they have to say. Personally, it makes me feel really great when I listen to my gamer guy talk about games that he likes. It makes me feel like I can share in that part of his life, even though games aren’t really my thing. In fact, the idea of sitting at a computer for hours on end playing with 8 bit blocks sounds like my own personal version of hell. But hey, my man loves minecraft. I love the idea of marriage. Sometimes you just don’t agree. But that doesn’t mean we can’t have an amazing relationship! We just have to compromise, and become interested in the things the other likes.

So, long story short, he and I made it to two years, and I truly believe we’re in it for the long haul. Only time will tell, but I love him from the bottom of my heart, and I’m confident that I will forever have things to post on this blog, because he and I will always be together. 🙂

A cheesy tangent, I know, but hey! It only happens once a year, so cut me some slack!

Trollmates, continue to stay tuned! Within the next few days I will be posting a list of the top questions to ask your boyfriend about gaming, so if you found this post helpful, follow us @trollmatesunite to see when that next post goes live! Trust me, you will definitely want to read it, because it will be SUPER helpful, and they will all be questions I have ACTUALLY used to spark conversations (and closeness!) with my gamer guy. Because, let’s be real ladies: Sometimes you have no idea what he’s talking about, but don’t want to 4 hour explanation of something you really didn’t care about in the first place. I totally have you covered!

Like I said, there’s some really exciting announcements and things coming, so stay tuned! Keep coming back, keep showing your friends! Like us on facebook by either clicking “like” on the side of the blog or visiting our page. Comment, like, email me! I love suggestions!

Stay safe if you’re going to be affected by Hurricane Sandy!

~ ❤ ~

Taylor

 

photocred to funnyjunk.com

The Lowdown #1: Slenderman

Hey there, my lovely trollmates!

Sorry it’s taken me so long to update! My school was on Fall Break, so I was away from my computer watching Mean Girls over and over spending time with my family.

Anyway, as you can probably tell, I’m going to be starting a new type of post! It’s called The Lowdown, and it’s going to be posts that focus on one particular piece of internet culture or gaming, like a particular game, meme, or idea.

For this particular post, our topic is Slenderman.

Now, some of you may have heard of Slenderman via the game Slender. While this isn’t the first time Slenderman has appeared within internet or gamer culture, this game has increased this creature’s popularity by a lot.

For those of you who don’t know, here’s a little background information on Slenderman:

Once upon a July on 2009, the forum Something Awful had a “Create Paranormal Images” type contest/competition. Somebody posted this picture:

Freaky, right?

and Slenderman was born! Since then, Slenderman has become really popular within stories and Creepypasta. Visit the Trollmate Vocabulary post for my explanation of Creepypasta.

But here’s some information on the actual mythos of Slenderman:

  • As you can probably tell from the above picture, the Slenderman is said to usually hang around kids.
  • Slenderman has no face.
  • Slenderman wears a suit, complete with the tie.
  • Slenderman has long tentacle-like arms.
  • The Slenderman is said to inhabit heavily wooded areas.
  • Legend has it that Slenderman will stalk you until you slowly go insane.
  • If he stalks you, you may start to black out, feel nauseous, and lose track of time, among other things.
  • Some believe that Slenderman can teleport, or use the 4th dimension to travel. Others think that he simply remains completely still while you are looking, and walks fast (due to his long legs) while you are turned around. Either way, it’s a terrifying concept.

Now, pretty much like the day after Slenderman was created (or pretty close to that), MarbleHornets was created. MarbleHornets is basically a youtube channel paired with a Twitter that basically follows the story of a guy named Jay and a movie his friend Alex was making. To watch MarbleHornets, visit the Youtube channel and watch the videos and follow @marblehornets on Twitter! The story’s scary, but it’s addictive!

Slenderman (the Operator) as depicted in MarbleHornets

Now let’s cover the most recent obsession of Slenderfans: Slender.

As MarbleHornets started to gain popularity (it’s in its final season now), Slenderman became more and more popular. Because Slenderman was getting so popular, the game Slender was created. Parsec Productions basically made the game, which has the full name “Slender: The Eight Pages”. Pretty much what you do is navigate through a landscape and find 8 pages about Slenderman, while trying to avoid him. You have a flashlight and navigate through this creepy landscape, some of which is old buildings or dark woods, and look for the pages. You have to collect them all without Slenderman getting you, so pretty much you turn around and your little flashlight can sometimes show him standing there. The creators are now working on an even more advance version, but many people really like this one because even though there’s pretty limited gameplay, Slenderman never appears in the same place, so it’s not like you can avoid him.

This game has gained a HUGE amount of popularity. It is free to download, and because of the simple storyline and design, you don’t have to be a hardcore gamer to have fun playing it. If you love jumpscares and you’re interested in a little scary fun, I recommend you download Slender.

A screencap from Slender.

Besides Slender, there are tons upon tons of stories and memes about Slenderman; he’s very popular. MJDarklighter has a really freaky story called Slender Spot that is definitely worth reading. There are multitudes of documentaries and short films on Slenderman, but The Slender Man Documentary is a short scary one.

There’s also a lot of parodies of Slenderman, for instance, the idea that he only stalks you because “Gimme 20 Dollahs”. This one is my personal favorite, because it takes an actual MarbleHornets entry and makes fun of it. Beware though, the footage is pretty scary, but with the music it basically counteracts it.

Slenderman vs. Gangnam Style, featured below, is a great example of how popular Slenderman is and what Slenderman represents; no matter what the current viral videos or trends are, Slenderman will find his way into them. People love Slenderman, and ladies, if your man loves Slenderman, don’t pretend for 2 seconds that he isn’t going to try and suck you into the vortex of Slenderfandom too.

Personally, I really like Slenderman, especially MarbleHornets. While I’m really bad with jump scares (it doesn’t matter what’s jumping out; it could be a fluffy unicorn shitting rainbows and I would still jump if it popped out), my boyfriend absolutely loves the game Slender, and has actually downloaded the game via the Android market onto his phone. He plays it pretty much all the time, so I guess it gets the Boyfriend Stamp of Approval!

Okay trollmates, I know some of you may be asking, “Why Slenderman as a first post?” Well, ladies, Slederman is something that is quickly gaining popularity. In order to date somebody who’s keeping up with these trends, you too need to be aware of it. If your man loves Slender or Slenderman, you at least need to know the basics of what he’s talking about! To keep a relationship alive, there’s got to be communication, INTERESTING communication. What better way to have an interesting conversation with your man than to say “hey, so I saw this hilarious Slenderman video today”… chances are he’ll be WAY impressed that you recognize Slenderman. Plus, my boyfriend and I watch MarbleHornets together, and it’s hours upon hours of scary suspenseful fun! My boyfriend loves horror movies, but I can’t stand gore, so MarbleHornets is a really good compromise for us, because it has all the suspense with little to no blood! 🙂

Have any questions, comments, or thoughts? Feel free to leave it in the comments section below!

~ ❤ ~

Taylor

Post #3: Boom Headshot! 4 Gamer Stereotypes Debunked

Hello there my lovely trollmates!

For this post, I’m going to talk about stereotypes that gamers face, and what YOU should know as a girl who is dating/wants to date/wants to know more about a gamer and his or her gaming.

Why am I posting this, you ask? Because my boyfriend texted me excitedly this morning to let me know that he had found the “most HILARIOUS video” for my blog. He then proceeded to link me to this:

Watch it! Not only is it is it entertaining, it’s also my inspiration for this post!

Basically, this video is a mock interview with a gamer, who basically proceeds to be a complete and total freak of nature. While it’s pretty entertaining and fun to watch, it brings up a few stereotypes that we trollmates need to realize aren’t really true!

1. All gamers are nutjobs.

This one is really emphasized in the video. The guy just keeps yelling “BOOM HEADSHOT!” over and over again like he’s certifiably insane. Towards the end of the video, when he starts losing, he starts to get physically angry and basically freak the hell out!

Contrary to popular belief, not all gamers are crazy! While yes, a few if them are admittedly quirky, finding a gamer of Gary Busey level insanity is actually pretty rare.

The same is true of guys who browse 4chan or the Internet in general. People sometimes think that making friends with someone on the Internet is basically inviting them to stalk and kill you, when this simply isn’t this case. I’m obviously not saying “hey ladies, go on chatroulette, flash everyone, and give them all your home address”, but if you’re smart (and follow the guidelines I’ll set forth in a later article about Internet safety ;D), then it’s perfectly okay to talk to and meet people online.

The world is changing, ladies! Not everyone on the Internet is a psycho.

2. All gamers are disconnected from reality.

The guy in the video seriously has no concept of reality. He thinks life is really like a video game, and when he’s not playing the game, it’s like he can’t stop thinking about it. He’s seriously obsessed.

This is a really common stereotype of gamers. Many people think that all gamer guys care about is their high score. Ladies, I want you all to realize that this simply isn’t true!

Just like it the cartoon at the bottom (which I don’t own, btw), the stereotype is that a gamer guy will totally ignore you simply because he loves his games more. That’s simply not the case, as clearly shown in that lovely cartoon.

While gamers absolutely love their games, it’s a hobby. And just like any other hobby, while it is a big part of someone’s life, it’s not their ONLY focus. You don’t think your grandma has a sick obsession with knitting or cats, do you? Those are things that she loves, but it’s not like that’s the only thing she thinks about all day. Gamers are the same way, trollmates! They love their games, but they do other things too!

3. All gamers are violent.

We’ve all heard it before: Violent video games increase violent behavior. Well, I used to believe this too. However, in doing research for one of my classes this semester, I discovered that this is not actually the case. Trust me, they’ve done studies on it. It seems everyone wants to find a reason to explain why all the bad people in the world are bad. When adolescents or college students commit insanely heinous crimes, they seem to always find a way (or their parents do) to blame it on video games. Because of this, it seems to be a really widespread belief that video games make people more likely to be violent. This isn’t true, scientifically.

Now, I’m not saying that it’s necessarily okay to let your toddler play MA-17 rated games. They’re rated for a reason.

However, there’s no scientific research (not that I’ve found, anyway) that supports the idea that video games make people more violent. While I do think that allowing a REALLY young child to play and incredibly violent video game could possibly make them unable to realize that death in real life is permanent, which could seriously have affects of their mental development, I see no reason to believe that video games make people more violent, especially when played by teenage or adult men.

So ladies, don’t immediately write off gamer guys because you think they’re violent. Any guy can be violent, and domestic violence is NEVER okay. But no guy is more likely to be any more violent than another, especially because of playing games.

4. All gamers are unemployed and/or live in their mother’s basement.

This is a really common one. For some reason, it’s an increasingly common stereotype that all gamers don’t work and just sit in their mom’s basement all day on the computer. This stereotype also includes a large amount of acne, suspenders, and glasses.

Ladies, the times, they are a changin! Spending time on a computer is no longer for guys named Eugene who do the creep!

Not only are most gamers employed, most are the the guys who, 20 years from now, will be making ALL THE MONEY! Computers and technology are the way of the world, my lovely trollmates, and if you’re in with a guy who already knows his way around a laptop, you’re good to go!

But seriously, even if your man just games as a hobby, chances are he’s somewhat intelligent. While it may not seem like it, it takes a bit of strategy and/or skill to play games (some more than others, obviously).

While yes, of course there are gamer/internet literate guys out there who really spend 23 hours a day on their computer, most do not do this. Don’t let the Big Bang Theory fool you, ladies. Not all nerdy-type guys are pretentious or socially awkward.

And there you have it ladies. Those are the stereotypes. And now you all know they’re just that: stereotypes! Of COURSE there are a few outliers; the nerdy suspender wearing, game playing, lives in his momma’s basement guys. But there are also a couple big, stupid, thick football players, a couple dumb blondes… But not every blonde is dumb. Not every football player is big and stupid. Far from it!

So before you write off a gamer because of those labels, get to know the person first. You might be surprised 🙂

I leave you with a very funny and very relevant cartoon, which pretty much shows that you can’t always trust stereotypes.

Remember ladies, he’s a man first, a gamer second. ;D

~ ❤ ~

Taylor

Post #2: If I’m a Trollmate, Then What’s a Troll?: A Internet Culture Vocabulary Lesson

Hello, my fellow trollmates! 🙂

I’m glad so many people have visited this blog! I’m loving all the comments coming in! Continue to like my blog’s page on Facebook, and follow me on twitter @trollmatesunite!!!

Now, some of you may be wondering the title question: if I’m a trollmate, what’s a troll? Well, I hear your thoughts ladies, and so I’m here to help define some key Internet culture terms for you! Some of these may be basic, some of them may not be, but if you wanna understand anything your man says, it’s important to know what certain terms mean! Communication is key in any relationship, and if you have no idea what the hell he’s talking about half the time, conversation could be a bit hard.

So here’s DomesticMajestic’s Internet Culture Vocabulary Lesson

  1. Troll: A person who posts inflammatory or negative things on the Internet in an attempt to be funny or to make others mad. A whole lot of people on the Internet are trolls, so be very wary when posting! These guys (and girls!) can be anywhere from stupid to downright mean, so be very careful about what you post, as someone will find a way to discredit it or make fun of it! It’s also important you remember that trolling is really common, and not to get discouraged by it. The word troll can also be a verb, as in “trolling”. This is incredibly common on 4chan (see below).
  2. Meme: A meme is any piece of media that becomes incredibly popular in Internet culture. It can be in the form of a picture (ever seen the same picture over and over with different words on it? That’s a meme), a gif (see below), a video, or any other concept that becomes incredibly popular. QuickMeme is a good website to find memes, particularly images. They’re usually pretty entertaining, so I’d recommend looking at a few. I will also eventually write an article listing and explaining some popular memes, so stay tuned ladies! Feel free to comment with suggestions for that article. 🙂
  3. 4chan: 4chan is a image board website. That means its basically like a forum on drugs… There are tons of different boards, covering almost any topic you could think of. All the board names are letters, and basically everyone is anonymous, meaning you don’t have to sign up to post. Because of the anonymity, people are more free to share, ask questions, and troll other people. Although this community this community is sometimes known as the hellhole portion of the Internet, it’s actually quit interesting if you find a board that interests you. However, if you’re interested in browsing 4chan but aren’t sure where to start, keep tuning in as I’ll soon be writing a trollmate’s guide to 4chan.
  4. Reddit: Although people sometimes regard it as the smaller tamer 4chan, Reddit is actually a beast of a completely different kind. Reddit focuses on upvotes, meaning that the community basically gives your content a thumbs up. You do create an account on Reddit, however you are still anonymous. Reddit is more focused on news and what’s hot now, rather than just random images like 4chan. However, there are many subreddits (basically smaller topics of bigger parent topics) that become very content specific, so pretty much anybody can find something to like. As a general rule, someone usually prefers either Reddit or 4chan, and chooses to browse either one of the other.
  5. Gif: A gif is a moving picture clip, usually only a few seconds long, and named for the fact that the file extension is .gif. This type of media is used commonly on image boards, including 4chan and sites like Tumblr.
  6. Otaku Culture: With an entire boards dedicated to it, Otaku culture is an important part of many gamers lives. Otaku is a Japanese term referring to any who is obsessed with something, usually anime, manga, or another piece of Japanese culture. There are entire conventions dedicated to it, Otaku culture is incredibly prominent within Internet culture. Otaku is not necessarily my thing, but its an incredibly important part of Internet culture as a whole.
  7. Anon: This term can refer to anyone who uses a website where they can post anonymously. However, it is most commonly used in reference to anyone using 4chan.
  8. Redditor: Someone who browses or posts on Reddit frequently.
  9. CreepyPasta: This refers to both a website and a genre. Creepypasta is a site where people basically write in depth stories or create detailed videos where they tell scary stories to freak each other out. These stories can also be referred to as Creepypasta. It’s addictive. Some stories are much more terrifying than others, and some creepypasta will haunt you every time you close your eyes. It depends. Other Forms: Copypasta (a story or video advertised as original creepypasta, but in reality is just copied from someone else’s creepypasta).

Well, those are the most important terms that I can think of as of now!

Leave me a comment if you have another term you’d like me to include, or if you just have something to say! Show your friends this blog, and keep those followers coming!

~ ❤ ~

Taylor