Post #7: I Want to Hear From You!

Hey there trollmates!

It’s been a while since I’ve updated simply because I was waiting to hear from someone abut wanting to win the giveaway.

Apparently no one has entered yet, so I’m going to extended the giveaway to February first! So go comment!

In other news, I’m wondering what you guys want to hear! I haven’t gotten a ton of feedback on this blog, but I would really love to know what you all are thinking! Do you wish I would just shut up and stop asking you what you think write more Lowdowns? Do you want to hear more about my personal relationship experiences? I’m actually studying couples and sex therapy, so do you guys want advice?

Anyway, I’m literally open to anything! Ask anything you want to know, including but not limited to:

What games you should buy your boyfriend?
What is my favorite fruit?
How can you communicate better with your gamer?
What games/sites/pieces of culture should you avoid?
Why do I like Slenderman?
Do I have a Tumbr?
Why did I start this site in the first place?
What is my boyfriend like?
What games do I like/hate/loathe entirely?
What is the meaning of life?

I will answer all of these questions and more if you ask them!

There’s more to come, my lovelies! Stay tuned!

~ ❤ ~

Taylor

Post #4: Trollmates for Real

Hey there, Trollmates! 🙂

Sorry I haven’t updated this week! I have been so very busy this week eating pizza rolls  coming up with ideas for articles and even writing some guests posts, which will bring even more trollmates to our community!

Today though, I’m dedicating this post to my amazing boyfriend!

“But Taylor!” You might be wondering, “Why the hell should we care about your life?”

Well, ladies (and gents), you should care because I am living proof that a non-gamer to gamer relationship can work and be strong, so long as you work at it! Even more than that, it’s to share with you my story so that you know I’m not some random foreveralone person who knows nothing about relationships. I have one, a great one. And that’s why I made this blog.

So, today is my two year anniversary with my boyfriend! He and I, as the title suggests, are trollmates for real, and two years is a big deal for us! So to celebrate, I want to share some things with you that I’ve found extremely helpful in making our relationship last.

That brings us to the topic of today’s post:

  • Rule Number Two: Ask Questions

Last summer, my boyfriend and I went through a really rough patch that called our whole relationship into question. Sometimes we felt like we simply had nothing to talk about, that we had settled into a routine and couldn’t get out of it.

That’s when we learned to ask questions. I don’t mean, “Why didn’t you call me?!” type questions. I mean questions about each other, and about the things we love. This is especially true for a gamer to non-gamer relationship; Gamers LOVE to talk about their games! But more importantly, they love that you care enough to want to learn. Which means you need to also follow this:

  • Rule Number Three: Listen to the Answers

Ladies, asking questions isn’t going to help your relationship if you aren’t interested in hearing the answer! If you really want to make it work with someone, you have to be interested in the things that they care about! Now, that doesn’t mean you have to sit and play Guild Wars 2 for a few hours and become a fan of it; it just means that you like/love/care about the other person enough to hear what they have to say. Personally, it makes me feel really great when I listen to my gamer guy talk about games that he likes. It makes me feel like I can share in that part of his life, even though games aren’t really my thing. In fact, the idea of sitting at a computer for hours on end playing with 8 bit blocks sounds like my own personal version of hell. But hey, my man loves minecraft. I love the idea of marriage. Sometimes you just don’t agree. But that doesn’t mean we can’t have an amazing relationship! We just have to compromise, and become interested in the things the other likes.

So, long story short, he and I made it to two years, and I truly believe we’re in it for the long haul. Only time will tell, but I love him from the bottom of my heart, and I’m confident that I will forever have things to post on this blog, because he and I will always be together. 🙂

A cheesy tangent, I know, but hey! It only happens once a year, so cut me some slack!

Trollmates, continue to stay tuned! Within the next few days I will be posting a list of the top questions to ask your boyfriend about gaming, so if you found this post helpful, follow us @trollmatesunite to see when that next post goes live! Trust me, you will definitely want to read it, because it will be SUPER helpful, and they will all be questions I have ACTUALLY used to spark conversations (and closeness!) with my gamer guy. Because, let’s be real ladies: Sometimes you have no idea what he’s talking about, but don’t want to 4 hour explanation of something you really didn’t care about in the first place. I totally have you covered!

Like I said, there’s some really exciting announcements and things coming, so stay tuned! Keep coming back, keep showing your friends! Like us on facebook by either clicking “like” on the side of the blog or visiting our page. Comment, like, email me! I love suggestions!

Stay safe if you’re going to be affected by Hurricane Sandy!

~ ❤ ~

Taylor

 

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A Gamer Girl’s Guide: How to Have Your Cake and Eat it Too!

Hello there all you gamer girls! We may be the abnormalities of society, but we need love too! My name is Chelsea and I will help anyone with particular questions about the life and times of female gamers and geeks, as I am one myself. I also happen to be dating a gamer guy, so I can get advice from the other side, too – relationships or otherwise.

My personal favorites happen to be Skyrim, Portal, and Minecraft, though I know my way around Modern Warfare 3 as well. I also play a little tiny bit of Magic: the Gathering and D&D and I watch a little Anime, but even with all of this I’m only scratching the surface. Heck, my video game career only started with Guitar Hero III: Legends of Rock. Before that I knew nothing of the video game world.

So how did I get into gaming and Geekville? Honestly, I have no idea. I guess I have a lot of guy friends who talk about the wonders of the mythology of the Elder Scrolls too much and a boyfriend who can “No-Scope” the entire opposing team in seconds on MW3. I guess I also spend a little too much time in my own fantasy land – I can thank Harry Potter and my ADD for that.

But is there a life outside of gaming? For some, that’s questionable. You’ve heard of those people who have to go to rehab for World of Warcraft, right? For me, though, there’s a bit more going on. I’m a college student; an Art Therapy major, actually. I make art (plus some crappy comics based on my Skyrim experiences), have friends (some of which are as nerdy as myself), obsess over a couple of TV shows (like Supernatural), and I’m writing a fantasy novel.

I’m here to help! Ask me any questions about the lives of gamers or how to get their attention; I’ll do my best to answer them, even if it means doing a little research.

Post #1: It’s Me Or Call of Duty!

My lovely trollmates, as you all know, having a gamer as a boyfriend can be tough. Sure, some of them are ultra-romantic, but the vast majority of them are not. So how do we get them to appreciate us? And more importantly, how do we get them to put down the controller?!

Even if you are a gamer yourself, you’re still a woman, which means you have certain needs for your relationship. Women need some tenderness and affection, can I get an AMEN?!

However! This blog is not for those girls who think their boys should just put down the game console permanently and go watch the Titanic in 3D while brushing each other’s hair and talking about Gucci handbags. This leads us to the first rule of dating a gamer!

  • Rule Number One: Don’t make him choose.

The first step of being a trollmate is understanding that games are just as much as a part of your man’s life as you are. If you tell him its you or the games, be prepared for him to show you the door, not because he loves the games more than you by any means, but because you would be taking away something that he enjoys. That would be like him telling you to choose between him and a pair of Louboutin red bottoms. You shouldn’t have to choose between two things you love, why should he? This is especially true for those trollmates who are also gamers. He wouldn’t ask you to quit playing your game, so why should his situation be any different?

Now, many of you ladies might be saying: “But Taylor! My man is too old to play those games! He’s an adult, video games are for children!” And at one time, I would have agreed with you. But remember, no one will ever say a man is too old to hunt or fish! To which you ladies might respond, “But hunting and fishing are skills that would be useful! Video games aren’t!” To which I would respond: Honey, if the zombie Apocalypse happens, you’re gonna be glad you found a man who knew exactly what weapons to bring and where to hide.

But seriously, as childish as they may seem, video games are really a way for guys to de-stress. I mean, hey, if my boyfriend wants to kill something, I’m just glad it’s zombies in a virtual game rather than him actually going out and committing actual crimes. No, this does not mean that men who play games are more violent than those who don’t. All men have some type of aggression or masculine energy that they need to use up. Some guys play sports. Some guys play video games. It’s all good.

Now, of course this doesn’t mean that men should be allowed to play video games all day every day while we make them sammiches and clean the house. This IS the 21st century ladies, and we need some attention once in a while. I mean, they ARE our boyfriends, after all.

Basically what I’m saying here is that video games for some guys are a hobby; they love them, they want to play them, and they aren’t going to stop playing them just because some girl wants to talk to them 24/7. If you really wanna be with your gamer, you have to show him that you’re totally cool with him taking some time to play his games. Do this, and I promise he’ll appreciate you.

So ladies, the next time your man is playing his xbox for an hour or two, let him. Once he sees that you’re okay with his first love, his xbox, he’ll be more willing to let YOU into his life, permanently.

~<3 ~

Taylor

A Girl’s Guide to a Gamer Guy: An Introduction

Hey guys!

Because this is my first official entry, I just want to do a little bit of an introduction for you all, not only to this blog, but to me and my reasons behind this blog.

Basically, I’ve always wanted to write a book called A Girl’s Guide to a Gamer Guy. Admittedly though, I’m not exactly the best author in the world. Maybe someday this blog will take off and somebody will offer me a million dollar book deal. Or maybe I’ll just sit here writing this blog for myself.

Throughout my life, I’ve dated quite a few “gamer guys”, including my current boyfriend of nearly two years. As this picture suggests, my boyfriend is a total gamer. While this picture is not mine, and I didn’t create it or anything, it’s a pretty good representation of what it can feel like for the girlfriend (or wife) of a gamer. Every gamer has his own poison, be it Pokemon, Diablo, Minecraft, Skyrim, or all of the above, and it can sometimes feel as though you’re being left behind.

Contrary to the name of this blog, your beau doesn’t have to play video games for this information to apply to you. As a general rule, most guys who would identify themselves as gamers are also well-versed in internet culture as a whole, so if your man likes to browse 4chan or reddit, this is the blog for you, too, whether or not your man has an xbox. This means you too, girls who are sitting thinking “what about Runescape/Dungeons and Dragons/Yugioh/World of Warcraft/anything that hasn’t yet been included”. If your man spends an hour or more a day sitting in front of some type of fantasy or virtual reality, be it the internet or a game, this blog is for you.

In addition to gamer guys, this also applies to gamer girls. Ladies, no matter WHAT your preferences are, if you or your partner is a gamer, this blog is for you 🙂

Long story short, it’s hard for me to find other girls who can relate to the experiences I have with my gamer guy. The dynamic is often quite different for a gamer couple vs a non-gamer one, and in this day and age as internet culture is becoming more and more prominent,  it’s important for us ladies, trollmates, if you will, to band together and share our experiences. Therefore, this blog is meant for my fellow trollmates, so that you can (hopefully) laugh at some of the things I say and know that there’s someone else out there asking “wait, so which button is jump?”

Thanks for reading! More posts soon!

~ ❤ ~

Taylor

Photo credit: Melissa Davila’s 365 doodles