Post #10: Zero Sight: Bad Call

Hello my lovelies!

Today I want to talk to you about a really cool short film called Zero Sight: Bad Call. I was contacted by the lovely group of women who created it and they asked me to watch it. I did, and it was great!

Great, huh?

If you didn’t watch it, basically it’s about this gamer Veronica who is suddenly finds herself with great power in her hands. She steals a cell phone which has the power to kill people with a simple text message! I won’t give any more away because I don’t want to spoil it, but I will say that it’s definitely great!

One thing that I love about this short film is that it shows a female gamer in a good light. She’s not masculine or overly aggressive, but she’s not over-feminized or trivialized either. Because the women who created this film are gamers themselves, they respect female gamers and make a point not to make Veronica, or anyone else for that matter, merely an object or a sex symbol. That doesn’t mean Veronica as a character can’t be attractive; it just means that’s not the main point of her character. That’s what I like about this film. Rather than making it about the fact that she’s a girl, she just happens to be a gamer girl who also happens to be a badass!

In short, I think this is a great short film that respects the genre and is tons of fun! These ladies have done an amazing job with it and I can’t wait to see more from them! I definitely recommend you check it out!

To hear my College Girl Uncensored interview with Liz Rizzo, the director of the project, check it out here.

Loved it? Have a question? Want to see your video on our site? Email me at domesticmajestic@gmail.com!

~ ❤ ~

Taylor

P.S. Zero Sight: Bad Call is a Stage 5 TV production and is part of their Continuum Channel. Used with permission. A big thanks to Paige and Liz for contacting me!

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Post #3: Boom Headshot! 4 Gamer Stereotypes Debunked

Hello there my lovely trollmates!

For this post, I’m going to talk about stereotypes that gamers face, and what YOU should know as a girl who is dating/wants to date/wants to know more about a gamer and his or her gaming.

Why am I posting this, you ask? Because my boyfriend texted me excitedly this morning to let me know that he had found the “most HILARIOUS video” for my blog. He then proceeded to link me to this:

Watch it! Not only is it is it entertaining, it’s also my inspiration for this post!

Basically, this video is a mock interview with a gamer, who basically proceeds to be a complete and total freak of nature. While it’s pretty entertaining and fun to watch, it brings up a few stereotypes that we trollmates need to realize aren’t really true!

1. All gamers are nutjobs.

This one is really emphasized in the video. The guy just keeps yelling “BOOM HEADSHOT!” over and over again like he’s certifiably insane. Towards the end of the video, when he starts losing, he starts to get physically angry and basically freak the hell out!

Contrary to popular belief, not all gamers are crazy! While yes, a few if them are admittedly quirky, finding a gamer of Gary Busey level insanity is actually pretty rare.

The same is true of guys who browse 4chan or the Internet in general. People sometimes think that making friends with someone on the Internet is basically inviting them to stalk and kill you, when this simply isn’t this case. I’m obviously not saying “hey ladies, go on chatroulette, flash everyone, and give them all your home address”, but if you’re smart (and follow the guidelines I’ll set forth in a later article about Internet safety ;D), then it’s perfectly okay to talk to and meet people online.

The world is changing, ladies! Not everyone on the Internet is a psycho.

2. All gamers are disconnected from reality.

The guy in the video seriously has no concept of reality. He thinks life is really like a video game, and when he’s not playing the game, it’s like he can’t stop thinking about it. He’s seriously obsessed.

This is a really common stereotype of gamers. Many people think that all gamer guys care about is their high score. Ladies, I want you all to realize that this simply isn’t true!

Just like it the cartoon at the bottom (which I don’t own, btw), the stereotype is that a gamer guy will totally ignore you simply because he loves his games more. That’s simply not the case, as clearly shown in that lovely cartoon.

While gamers absolutely love their games, it’s a hobby. And just like any other hobby, while it is a big part of someone’s life, it’s not their ONLY focus. You don’t think your grandma has a sick obsession with knitting or cats, do you? Those are things that she loves, but it’s not like that’s the only thing she thinks about all day. Gamers are the same way, trollmates! They love their games, but they do other things too!

3. All gamers are violent.

We’ve all heard it before: Violent video games increase violent behavior. Well, I used to believe this too. However, in doing research for one of my classes this semester, I discovered that this is not actually the case. Trust me, they’ve done studies on it. It seems everyone wants to find a reason to explain why all the bad people in the world are bad. When adolescents or college students commit insanely heinous crimes, they seem to always find a way (or their parents do) to blame it on video games. Because of this, it seems to be a really widespread belief that video games make people more likely to be violent. This isn’t true, scientifically.

Now, I’m not saying that it’s necessarily okay to let your toddler play MA-17 rated games. They’re rated for a reason.

However, there’s no scientific research (not that I’ve found, anyway) that supports the idea that video games make people more violent. While I do think that allowing a REALLY young child to play and incredibly violent video game could possibly make them unable to realize that death in real life is permanent, which could seriously have affects of their mental development, I see no reason to believe that video games make people more violent, especially when played by teenage or adult men.

So ladies, don’t immediately write off gamer guys because you think they’re violent. Any guy can be violent, and domestic violence is NEVER okay. But no guy is more likely to be any more violent than another, especially because of playing games.

4. All gamers are unemployed and/or live in their mother’s basement.

This is a really common one. For some reason, it’s an increasingly common stereotype that all gamers don’t work and just sit in their mom’s basement all day on the computer. This stereotype also includes a large amount of acne, suspenders, and glasses.

Ladies, the times, they are a changin! Spending time on a computer is no longer for guys named Eugene who do the creep!

Not only are most gamers employed, most are the the guys who, 20 years from now, will be making ALL THE MONEY! Computers and technology are the way of the world, my lovely trollmates, and if you’re in with a guy who already knows his way around a laptop, you’re good to go!

But seriously, even if your man just games as a hobby, chances are he’s somewhat intelligent. While it may not seem like it, it takes a bit of strategy and/or skill to play games (some more than others, obviously).

While yes, of course there are gamer/internet literate guys out there who really spend 23 hours a day on their computer, most do not do this. Don’t let the Big Bang Theory fool you, ladies. Not all nerdy-type guys are pretentious or socially awkward.

And there you have it ladies. Those are the stereotypes. And now you all know they’re just that: stereotypes! Of COURSE there are a few outliers; the nerdy suspender wearing, game playing, lives in his momma’s basement guys. But there are also a couple big, stupid, thick football players, a couple dumb blondes… But not every blonde is dumb. Not every football player is big and stupid. Far from it!

So before you write off a gamer because of those labels, get to know the person first. You might be surprised 🙂

I leave you with a very funny and very relevant cartoon, which pretty much shows that you can’t always trust stereotypes.

Remember ladies, he’s a man first, a gamer second. ;D

~ ❤ ~

Taylor

Post #1: It’s Me Or Call of Duty!

My lovely trollmates, as you all know, having a gamer as a boyfriend can be tough. Sure, some of them are ultra-romantic, but the vast majority of them are not. So how do we get them to appreciate us? And more importantly, how do we get them to put down the controller?!

Even if you are a gamer yourself, you’re still a woman, which means you have certain needs for your relationship. Women need some tenderness and affection, can I get an AMEN?!

However! This blog is not for those girls who think their boys should just put down the game console permanently and go watch the Titanic in 3D while brushing each other’s hair and talking about Gucci handbags. This leads us to the first rule of dating a gamer!

  • Rule Number One: Don’t make him choose.

The first step of being a trollmate is understanding that games are just as much as a part of your man’s life as you are. If you tell him its you or the games, be prepared for him to show you the door, not because he loves the games more than you by any means, but because you would be taking away something that he enjoys. That would be like him telling you to choose between him and a pair of Louboutin red bottoms. You shouldn’t have to choose between two things you love, why should he? This is especially true for those trollmates who are also gamers. He wouldn’t ask you to quit playing your game, so why should his situation be any different?

Now, many of you ladies might be saying: “But Taylor! My man is too old to play those games! He’s an adult, video games are for children!” And at one time, I would have agreed with you. But remember, no one will ever say a man is too old to hunt or fish! To which you ladies might respond, “But hunting and fishing are skills that would be useful! Video games aren’t!” To which I would respond: Honey, if the zombie Apocalypse happens, you’re gonna be glad you found a man who knew exactly what weapons to bring and where to hide.

But seriously, as childish as they may seem, video games are really a way for guys to de-stress. I mean, hey, if my boyfriend wants to kill something, I’m just glad it’s zombies in a virtual game rather than him actually going out and committing actual crimes. No, this does not mean that men who play games are more violent than those who don’t. All men have some type of aggression or masculine energy that they need to use up. Some guys play sports. Some guys play video games. It’s all good.

Now, of course this doesn’t mean that men should be allowed to play video games all day every day while we make them sammiches and clean the house. This IS the 21st century ladies, and we need some attention once in a while. I mean, they ARE our boyfriends, after all.

Basically what I’m saying here is that video games for some guys are a hobby; they love them, they want to play them, and they aren’t going to stop playing them just because some girl wants to talk to them 24/7. If you really wanna be with your gamer, you have to show him that you’re totally cool with him taking some time to play his games. Do this, and I promise he’ll appreciate you.

So ladies, the next time your man is playing his xbox for an hour or two, let him. Once he sees that you’re okay with his first love, his xbox, he’ll be more willing to let YOU into his life, permanently.

~<3 ~

Taylor

A Girl’s Guide to a Gamer Guy: An Introduction

Hey guys!

Because this is my first official entry, I just want to do a little bit of an introduction for you all, not only to this blog, but to me and my reasons behind this blog.

Basically, I’ve always wanted to write a book called A Girl’s Guide to a Gamer Guy. Admittedly though, I’m not exactly the best author in the world. Maybe someday this blog will take off and somebody will offer me a million dollar book deal. Or maybe I’ll just sit here writing this blog for myself.

Throughout my life, I’ve dated quite a few “gamer guys”, including my current boyfriend of nearly two years. As this picture suggests, my boyfriend is a total gamer. While this picture is not mine, and I didn’t create it or anything, it’s a pretty good representation of what it can feel like for the girlfriend (or wife) of a gamer. Every gamer has his own poison, be it Pokemon, Diablo, Minecraft, Skyrim, or all of the above, and it can sometimes feel as though you’re being left behind.

Contrary to the name of this blog, your beau doesn’t have to play video games for this information to apply to you. As a general rule, most guys who would identify themselves as gamers are also well-versed in internet culture as a whole, so if your man likes to browse 4chan or reddit, this is the blog for you, too, whether or not your man has an xbox. This means you too, girls who are sitting thinking “what about Runescape/Dungeons and Dragons/Yugioh/World of Warcraft/anything that hasn’t yet been included”. If your man spends an hour or more a day sitting in front of some type of fantasy or virtual reality, be it the internet or a game, this blog is for you.

In addition to gamer guys, this also applies to gamer girls. Ladies, no matter WHAT your preferences are, if you or your partner is a gamer, this blog is for you 🙂

Long story short, it’s hard for me to find other girls who can relate to the experiences I have with my gamer guy. The dynamic is often quite different for a gamer couple vs a non-gamer one, and in this day and age as internet culture is becoming more and more prominent,  it’s important for us ladies, trollmates, if you will, to band together and share our experiences. Therefore, this blog is meant for my fellow trollmates, so that you can (hopefully) laugh at some of the things I say and know that there’s someone else out there asking “wait, so which button is jump?”

Thanks for reading! More posts soon!

~ ❤ ~

Taylor

Photo credit: Melissa Davila’s 365 doodles