Sorry I haven’t updated this week! I have been so very busy this week
eating pizza rolls coming up with ideas for articles and even writing some guests posts, which will bring even more trollmates to our community!
Today though, I’m dedicating this post to my amazing boyfriend!
“But Taylor!” You might be wondering, “Why the hell should we care about your life?”
Well, ladies (and gents), you should care because I am living proof that a non-gamer to gamer relationship can work and be strong, so long as you work at it! Even more than that, it’s to share with you my story so that you know I’m not some random foreveralone person who knows nothing about relationships. I have one, a great one. And that’s why I made this blog.
So, today is my two year anniversary with my boyfriend! He and I, as the title suggests, are trollmates for real, and two years is a big deal for us! So to celebrate, I want to share some things with you that I’ve found extremely helpful in making our relationship last.
That brings us to the topic of today’s post:
- Rule Number Two: Ask Questions
Last summer, my boyfriend and I went through a really rough patch that called our whole relationship into question. Sometimes we felt like we simply had nothing to talk about, that we had settled into a routine and couldn’t get out of it.
That’s when we learned to ask questions. I don’t mean, “Why didn’t you call me?!” type questions. I mean questions about each other, and about the things we love. This is especially true for a gamer to non-gamer relationship; Gamers LOVE to talk about their games! But more importantly, they love that you care enough to want to learn. Which means you need to also follow this:
- Rule Number Three: Listen to the Answers
Ladies, asking questions isn’t going to help your relationship if you aren’t interested in hearing the answer! If you really want to make it work with someone, you have to be interested in the things that they care about! Now, that doesn’t mean you have to sit and play Guild Wars 2 for a few hours and become a fan of it; it just means that you like/love/care about the other person enough to hear what they have to say. Personally, it makes me feel really great when I listen to my gamer guy talk about games that he likes. It makes me feel like I can share in that part of his life, even though games aren’t really my thing. In fact, the idea of sitting at a computer for hours on end playing with 8 bit blocks sounds like my own personal version of hell. But hey, my man loves minecraft. I love the idea of marriage. Sometimes you just don’t agree. But that doesn’t mean we can’t have an amazing relationship! We just have to compromise, and become interested in the things the other likes.
So, long story short, he and I made it to two years, and I truly believe we’re in it for the long haul. Only time will tell, but I love him from the bottom of my heart, and I’m confident that I will forever have things to post on this blog, because he and I will always be together. 🙂
A cheesy tangent, I know, but hey! It only happens once a year, so cut me some slack!
Trollmates, continue to stay tuned! Within the next few days I will be posting a list of the top questions to ask your boyfriend about gaming, so if you found this post helpful, follow us @trollmatesunite to see when that next post goes live! Trust me, you will definitely want to read it, because it will be SUPER helpful, and they will all be questions I have ACTUALLY used to spark conversations (and closeness!) with my gamer guy. Because, let’s be real ladies: Sometimes you have no idea what he’s talking about, but don’t want to 4 hour explanation of something you really didn’t care about in the first place. I totally have you covered!
Like I said, there’s some really exciting announcements and things coming, so stay tuned! Keep coming back, keep showing your friends! Like us on facebook by either clicking “like” on the side of the blog or visiting our page. Comment, like, email me! I love suggestions!
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